Attentive Intimacy

Approaches physical intimacy with attentiveness, tenderness and care for his wife's comfort and pleasure, not selfishly.

Modern relationship guidance

Approach intimacy with tenderness, passion, love, and patience.

Understand that women have different intimate needs than men.

Be attentive to your partner's comfort levels, as she may not always speak up directly about mistakes or discomfort to avoid hurting your feelings.

Do not pursue your wife only for sexual intimacy.

Flirt with your wife throughout the day rather than just in the bedroom.

Provide consistent attention to your wife during the day instead of ignoring her until it is time for intimacy.

Woo and pamper your wife regularly.

Make your wife feel desired by you at all times.

Be romantic and make her crave you even when you are not together.

Be romantic and make your wife crave you even when you are apart.

Shower your wife with love and affection outside of the bedroom.

Treat intimacy like cooking for someone else by learning her sensitivities, limits, and preferences.

Prophetic example

“During the menses, he used to order me to put on an Izar (dress worn below the waist) and used to fondle me.”

“he used to order her to put on an Izar and start fondling her”

“he used to ask her to wear an Izar”

“return to your family.”

“he would embrace her chest and breasts”

“The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) would fondle one of his wives when she was menstruating”