Mercy & Forgiveness

Overlooks his wife's faults and pardons her; does not hold grudges, shame, or punish her for mistakes.

Modern relationship guidance

Do not treat your wife like an object.

Do not assume your wife is satisfied just because you have reached climax.

Do not assume your wife is satisfied just because you are.

Put in consistent effort and time to overcome a bad first impression.

Accept that a bad first impression was made.

Identify where you went wrong.

Show vulnerability by sharing who you are, including your flaws and insecurities.

If your wife begins bad-mouthing you to friends, family, or colleagues, consider walking away from the relationship rather than trying to salvage it.

Do not keep the relationship a secret; be open about your love for your wife.

Be consistently kind to your wife, even when you do not need anything from her.

Respect your wife when she is honest with you.

Reflect on whether you have unknowingly shot her down when she tries to suggest doing something together as a couple.

Prophetic example

“The Prophet (ﷺ) collected the shattered pieces and put the food back in it and said, "Eat."”

“He said, "You have sought refuge with The Great; return to your family."”

“So the Prophet (ﷺ) said: "Food for food and vessel for vessel."”

“The Prophet picked up the two pieces and put them together”

“The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) took the two pieces and put them back together, then he started gathering up the food and putting it in (the bowl).”