Protective Care

Protects his wife's safety, dignity and wellbeing, and stands up for her.

Modern relationship guidance
Build a level of trust and comfort that allows her to feel safe revealing and exploring her secret fantasies.
Dress appropriately for the situation.
Show her who you really are instead of maintaining a 'tough' exterior all the time.
Show vulnerability by sharing who you are, including your flaws and insecurities.
Ensure financial stability to provide for your wife and your future family.
Be predictable and reliable so that your wife knows she can depend on you to build a home together.
Be aware of her specific needs.
Protect the women in your life.
Be willing to fight for your wife and shield her from the storms of life as much as you are able.
Exhibit assertiveness and be able to stand up for yourself and what you want.
Stand up for the woman in your life.
Stand up for the family you may have with her.
Prophetic example
Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 4, Hadith 7

“'In the name of Allah. O Allah! Protect us from Satan and also protect what you bestow upon us (i.e. the coming offspring) from Satan”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 25, Hadith 104

“So he said, "Perform the Tawaf while riding behind the people."”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 33, Hadith 10

“He told them: Do not run away! And said, "She is (my wife) Safiya bint Huyai." ... I was afraid lest Satan might insert an evil thought in your minds.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 52, Hadith 1

“By Allah, I have not known about my family-anything except good”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 56, Hadith 108

“I saw Allah's Apostle folding a cloak round the hump of the camel so as to make a wide space for Safiya (to sit on behind him)”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 57, Hadith 10

“Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) addressed them saying, "Don't hurry! (She is my wife),"”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 64, Hadith 253

“he made a place for her behind him and made her observe the veil.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 67, Hadith 23

“he spared her a space behind him (on his shecamel) and put a screening veil between her and the people.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 67, Hadith 94

“So when the Prophet (ﷺ) proceeded, he made a place for her (on the camel) behind him and screened her from people.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 67, Hadith 138

“None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 68, Hadith 4

“return to your family.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 76, Hadith 58

“The Prophet (ﷺ) used to treat some of his wives by passing his right hand over the place of ailment”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 76, Hadith 65

“The Prophet (ﷺ) used to treat some of his wives by passing his right hand over the place of ailment”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 77, Hadith 104

“These effeminate (men) should not enter upon you (your houses).”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 78, Hadith 72

“How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then he may embrace (sleep with) her?”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 78, Hadith 243

“Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said to them, "Do not be in a hurry She is Safiya, the daughter of Huyai."”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 79, Hadith 13

“the Prophet (ﷺ) put a screen between me and him”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 93, Hadith 24

“He must take her back (his wife) and keep her with him till she becomes clean from her menses”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 96, Hadith 97

“What do you suggest me regarding those people who are abusing my wife? I have never known anything bad about her.”

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Sahih Muslim - Book 16, Hadith 145

“and the breach of this trust is that he should divulge her secret”

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Jami` at-Tirmidhi - Book 47, Hadith 231

“Either you produce proof, or you will receive the legal punishment on your back.”

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Sunan Abi Dawud - Book 13, Hadith 54

“Take a part of her property and separate yourself from her.”

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Sunan Abi Dawud - Book 1, Hadith 268

“the Messenger of Allah (May peace be upon him) asked her to tie a waist wrapper (over her body)”

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Sunan Abi Dawud - Book 43, Hadith 98

“The most serious breach of trust in Allah’s sight is that a man who has intercourse with his wife, and she with him, spreads her secret.”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 26, Hadith 6

“I will make a provision for you and set you free in a handsome manner.”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 27, Hadith 11

“he told him to take her back”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 27, Hadith 70

“Keep away from her until you have done that which Allah, the Mighty and Sublime, has commanded.”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 27, Hadith 71

“Keep away until you have done what you have to do.”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 27, Hadith 172

“told him to take her back”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 36, Hadith 8

“Then the Prophet said to her: 'She is the daughter of Abu Bakr.'”

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Sunan Ibn Majah - Book 7, Hadith 142

“The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) got up to take her home.”

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Sunan Ibn Majah - Book 9, Hadith 139

“How long will one of you whip his wife like a slave, then lie with her at the end of the day?”

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Sunan Ibn Majah - Book 10, Hadith 54

“The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) separated them, and left the child with the woman.”

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