Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 6, Hadith 7
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Narrated `Abdur-Rahman bin Al-Aswad: (on the authority of his father) `Aisha said: "Whenever Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) wanted to fondle anyone of us during her periods (menses), he used to order her to put on an Izar and start fondling her." `Aisha added, "None of you could control his sexual desires as the Prophet (ﷺ) could."
How the Prophet ص modelled 2 behaviours here
Principled Leadership
“None of you could control his sexual desires as the Prophet (ﷺ) could.”
Leads the marriage from inner conviction and self-mastery rather than insecurity or ego; sets a steady, positive tone for the home.
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This hadith also models: Attentive Intimacy
Attentive Intimacy
“he used to order her to put on an Izar and start fondling her”
Approaches physical intimacy with attentiveness, tenderness and care for his wife's comfort and pleasure, not selfishly.
This hadith also models: Principled Leadership