Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 65, Hadith 311 View on sunnah.com →
Narrated Mu`adha: `Aisha said, "Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) used to take the permission of that wife with whom he was supposed to stay overnight if he wanted to go to one other than her, after this Verse was revealed:-- "You (O Muhammad) can postpone (the turn of) whom you will of them (your wives) and you may receive any (of them) whom you will; and there is no blame on you if you invite one whose turn you have set aside (temporarily). (33.51) I asked Aisha, "What did you use to say (in this case)?" She said, "I used to say to him, "If I could deny you the permission (to go to your other wives) I w…Narrated Mu`adha: `Aisha said, "Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) used to take the permission of that wife with whom he was supposed to stay overnight if he wanted to go to one other than her, after this Verse was revealed:-- "You (O Muhammad) can postpone (the turn of) whom you will of them (your wives) and you may receive any (of them) whom you will; and there is no blame on you if you invite one whose turn you have set aside (temporarily). (33.51) I asked Aisha, "What did you use to say (in this case)?"
She said, "I used to say to him, "If I could deny you the permission (to go to your other wives) I would not allow your favor to be bestowed on any other person."

How the Prophet ﷺ modelled 3 behaviours here

Partnership Collaboration

“Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) sought our permission when he had a (turn to spend) a day with (one of his wives)”

Joint decision-making; teamwork; shared goals; unified vision; collaborative problem-solving

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Boundaries Respect Autonomy

“Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) sought our permission when he had a (turn to spend) a day with (one of his wives)”

Setting and honoring healthy boundaries rooted in core values; respecting her boundaries while maintaining your own; supporting independence without control

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Communication Expression

“Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) used to take the permission of that wife with whom he was supposed to stay overnight if he wanted to go to one other than her”

Open, honest, and authentic communication; active listening; clarity in dialogue; emotional disclosure

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