Sahih Muslim - Book 17, Hadith 55 View on sunnah.com →
Ibn Abu Bakr b. Abd al-Rahman reported that when Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) married Umm Salama and she stayed with him (during the night), and it was dawn, he (the Holy Prophet) said to her: There is no lack of estimation for you on the part of your husband.
So if you desire I can spend a week with you, and if you like I may spend three (nights). and then I will visit you in turn. She said: Spend three (nights).

How the Prophet ﷺ modelled 4 behaviours here

Patience Compassion Understanding

“he (the Holy Prophet) said to her: There is no lack of estimation for you on the part of your husband.”

Remaining calm; showing gentleness; demonstrating patience; understanding perspectives; showing compassion

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Partnership Collaboration

“So if you desire I can spend a week with you, and if you like I may spend three (nights).”

Joint decision-making; teamwork; shared goals; unified vision; collaborative problem-solving

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Boundaries Respect Autonomy

“So if you desire I can spend a week with you, and if you like I may spend three (nights).”

Setting and honoring healthy boundaries rooted in core values; respecting her boundaries while maintaining your own; supporting independence without control

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Communication Expression

“There is no lack of estimation for you on the part of your husband.”

Open, honest, and authentic communication; active listening; clarity in dialogue; emotional disclosure

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