Sahih Muslim - Book 17, Hadith 56

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Abu Bakr b. 'Abd al-Rahman reported that when Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) married Umm Salama and he visited her, and when he intended to come out, she caught hold of his cloth. whereupon Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: If you so desire, I can extend the time (of my stay) with you, but then I shall have to calculate the time (that I stay with you and shall have to spend the same time with other wives).
For the virgin woman, (her husband has to stay with her) for a week, and for the woman previously married it is three days.

How the Prophet ﷺ modelled 3 behaviours here

Accountability Responsibility

“For the virgin woman, (her husband has to stay with her) for a week, and for the woman previously married it is three days.”

Taking ownership of actions; admitting mistakes; following through; being reliable; maintaining integrity

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This hadith also models: Consistency Reliability Commitment Boundaries Respect Autonomy

Consistency Reliability Commitment

“but then I shall have to calculate the time (that I stay with you and shall have to spend the same time with other wives).”

Consistent behavior; keeping promises; being dependable; showing commitment; unwavering support

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This hadith also models: Accountability Responsibility Boundaries Respect Autonomy

Boundaries Respect Autonomy

“If you so desire, I can extend the time (of my stay) with you, but then I shall have to calculate the time (that I stay with you and shall have to spend the same time with other wives).”

Setting and honoring healthy boundaries rooted in core values; respecting her boundaries while maintaining your own; supporting independence without control