Sahih Muslim - Book 18, Hadith 30
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'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported: When the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) was commanded to give option to his wives, he started it from me saying: I am going to mention to you a matter which you should not (decide) in haste until you have consulted your parents. She said that he already knew that my parents would never allow me to seek separation from him She said: Then he said: Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, said: Prophet, say to thy wives: If you desire this world's life and its adornment, then come, I will give you a provision and allow you to depart a goodly departing; and if you des…'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported: When the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) was commanded to give option to his wives, he started it from me saying: I am going to mention to you a matter which you should not (decide) in haste until you have consulted your parents. She said that he already knew that my parents would never allow me to seek separation from him She said: Then he said: Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, said: Prophet, say to thy wives: If you desire this world's life and its adornment, then come, I will give you a provision and allow you to depart a goodly departing; and if you desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the Hereafter, then Allah has prepared for the doers of good among you a great reward She is reported to have said: About what should I consult my parents, for I desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the Hereafter? She ('A'isha) said: Then all the wives of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) did as I had done.
How the Prophet ص modelled 3 behaviours here
Gentleness & Kind Speech
“allow you to depart a goodly departing”
Is gentle and soft toward his wife in word and deed; speaks kindly and never with harshness, insult, or contempt.
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This hadith also models: Generosity & Provision Honoring & Consulting
Generosity & Provision
“I will give you a provision”
Generously provides for and maintains his wife and household; is openhanded with sustenance rather than stingy.
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This hadith also models: Gentleness & Kind Speech Honoring & Consulting
Honoring & Consulting
“I am going to mention to you a matter which you should not (decide) in haste until you have consulted your parents.”
Honors and respects his wife as a dignified partner; values, seeks and acts on her opinion and counsel.
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This hadith also models: Gentleness & Kind Speech Generosity & Provision