Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 26, Hadith 145
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It was narrated that Anas said: "Abu Talhah married Umm Sulaim and the dowry between them was Islam. Umm Sulaim became Muslim before Abu Talhah, and he proposed to her but she said: 'I have become Muslim; if you become Muslim I will marry you.' So he became Muslim, and that was the dowry between them."
How the Prophet ﷺ modelled this behaviour here
Boundaries Respect Autonomy
“Umm Sulaim became Muslim before Abu Talhah, and he proposed to her but she said: 'I have become Muslim; if you become Muslim I will marry you.'”
Setting and honoring healthy boundaries rooted in core values; respecting her boundaries while maintaining your own; supporting independence without control