Jami` at-Tirmidhi - Book 13, Hadith 26
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Ibn Abbas narrated that: A man came to the Prophet, and he had uttered Zihar upon his wife then he had intercourse with her. So he said: 'O Messenger of Allah! I uttered Zihar against my wife, then I had intercourse with her before atoning.' He (pbuh) said: "What caused you to do that, may Allah have mercy upon you?' He said: 'I saw her anklets in the moonlight.' He said: 'Then do not go near her until you have done what Allah ordered (for it).'"
How the Prophet ص modelled 2 behaviours here
Gentleness & Kind Speech
“What caused you to do that, may Allah have mercy upon you?”
Is gentle and soft toward his wife in word and deed; speaks kindly and never with harshness, insult, or contempt.
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This hadith also models: Justice & Fairness
Justice & Fairness
“Then do not go near her until you have done what Allah ordered (for it).”
Treats his wife (and co-wives) justly and equitably; honors her rights and gives her what is due without wronging her.
This hadith also models: Gentleness & Kind Speech