Justice & Fairness

Treats his wife (and co-wives) justly and equitably; honors her rights and gives her what is due without wronging her.

Modern relationship guidance
Understand that women have different intimate needs than men.
Respect your wife's decisions and do not overstep boundaries.
Recognize that every woman has unique physical needs and preferences.
Respect your wife's time.
Give her time.
Dress appropriately for the situation.
Seek out future opportunities to right your wrongs.
Do not overlook finances when building a life together.
Schedule a weekly check-in with your wife to review your finances together.
Create a financial plan that both partners agree on to set shared goals.
Discuss whether to have joint or separate bank accounts by considering the pros and cons of each option.
Work with your wife to budget and save for shared goals.
Prophetic example
Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 41, Hadith 9

“The Prophet (ﷺ) used to give his wives one hundred Wasqs each”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 51, Hadith 27

“He would draw lots as to which of his wives would accompany him. He used to fix for each of them a day and a night.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 5, Hadith 21

“The Prophet (ﷺ) used to visit all his wives in a round, during the day and night”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 52, Hadith 49

“He also used to fix for everyone of his wives a day and a night”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 5, Hadith 36

“The Prophet (ﷺ) used to visit all his wives in one night”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 56, Hadith 94

“he used to draw lots amongst his wives and would take the one upon whom the lot fell”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 56, Hadith 266

“Go back and perform Hajj with your wife.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 64, Hadith 253

“he made a place for her behind him and made her observe the veil.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 65, Hadith 212

“If you are innocent, then Allah will declare your innocence: but if you have committed a sin, then ask for Allah's Forgiveness and repent to him.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 65, Hadith 315

“Then he went to the dwelling places of all his other wives and said to them the same as he said to Aisha”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 67, Hadith 6

“The Prophet (ﷺ) used to go round (have sexual relations with) all his wives in one night, and he had nine wives.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 67, Hadith 148

“The Prophet (ﷺ) used to pass by (have sexual relation with) all his wives in one night”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 67, Hadith 158

“He gave the sound dish to the wife whose dish had been broken and kept the broken one at the house where it had been broken.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 93, Hadith 24

“He must take her back (his wife) and keep her with him till she becomes clean from her menses”

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Sahih Muslim - Book 15, Hadith 431

“Then she should proceed along with you”

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Sahih Muslim - Book 17, Hadith 55

“and then I will visit you in turn.”

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Sahih Muslim - Book 17, Hadith 58

“If you desire that I spend a week with you, I shall have to spend a week with my (other) wives”

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Jami` at-Tirmidhi - Book 11, Hadith 62

“The Prophet would divide (his time) equally between his wives”

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Jami` at-Tirmidhi - Book 13, Hadith 26

“Then do not go near her until you have done what Allah ordered (for it).”

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Jami` at-Tirmidhi - Book 47, Hadith 231

“Either you produce proof, or you will receive the legal punishment on your back.”

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Sunan Abi Dawud - Book 12, Hadith 93

“He divided his time, day and night (equally) for each of his wives”

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Sunan Abi Dawud - Book 1, Hadith 219

“the Prophet (ﷺ) had intercourse with all his wives.”

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Sunan Abi Dawud - Book 13, Hadith 48

“He ordered him to atone for it.”

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Sunan Abi Dawud - Book 13, Hadith 54

“Take a part of her property and separate yourself from her.”

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Sunan Abi Dawud - Book 13, Hadith 59

“the Prophet(ﷺ) gave her choice”

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Sunan Abi Dawud - Book 13, Hadith 60

“The Prophet (ﷺ) gave her choice.”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 26, Hadith 2

“he used to be intimate with all of them”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 26, Hadith 3

“the Prophet used to go around to his wives in a single night”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 26, Hadith 7

“The Messenger of Allah gave his wives the choice (of staying with him) was it divorce?”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 26, Hadith 74

“he left the matter up to her”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 26, Hadith 158

“Whatever is given as a dowry, or gift or is promised her before the marriage belongs to her.”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 27, Hadith 70

“Keep away from her until you have done that which Allah, the Mighty and Sublime, has commanded.”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 27, Hadith 170

“either you retain her on reasonable terms”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 36, Hadith 5

“The Messenger of Allah used to divide his time equally among his wives”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 36, Hadith 8

“They were urging you to be equitable with regard to the matter of the daughter of Abu Quhafah... The Prophet said to her: 'Do you love me?' She said: 'Yes.' He said: 'Then love her.'”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 36, Hadith 17

“He waited until she brought the wooden bowl that was in her house, then he gave the sound bowl to the messenger and left the broken bowl in the house of the one who had broken it.”

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Sunan Ibn Majah - Book 9, Hadith 126

“he would cast lots among his wives”

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Sunan Ibn Majah - Book 9, Hadith 127

“The Messenger of Allah used to divide his time equally among his wives”

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Sunan Ibn Majah - Book 10, Hadith 52

“Bring proof or you will feel the Hadd (punishment) on your back.”

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Sunan Ibn Majah - Book 10, Hadith 54

“The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) separated them, and left the child with the woman.”

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Sunan Ibn Majah - Book 13, Hadith 40

“he would cast lots among his wives (to decide which one would accompany him)”

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Sunan Ibn Majah - Book 1, Hadith 324

“The Prophet went around to all of his wives in one night”

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