Sunan Abi Dawud - Book 8, Hadith 35
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Narrated AbuHurayrah: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: May Allah show mercy to a man who gets up during the night and prays, who wakens his wife and she prays; if she refuses, he sprinkles water on her face. May Allah show mercy to a woman who gets up during the night and prays, who wakens her husband and he prays; if he refuses she sprinkles water on his face.
How the Prophet ص modelled 2 behaviours here
Gentleness & Kind Speech
“if she refuses, he sprinkles water on her face.”
Is gentle and soft toward his wife in word and deed; speaks kindly and never with harshness, insult, or contempt.
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This hadith also models: Emotional Steadiness
Emotional Steadiness
“if she refuses, he sprinkles water on her face.”
Stays calm, composed and non-reactive when his wife is upset, angry or withdrawn; does not retaliate, get defensive, or escalate in the moment.
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This hadith also models: Gentleness & Kind Speech