Sunan Abi Dawud - Book 8, Hadith 88
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Narrated Abdullah Ibn Abbas: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) went out from Juwayriyyah (wife of the Prophet). Earlier her name was Barrah, and he changed it. When he went out she was in her place of worship, and when he returned she was in her place of worship. He asked: Have you been in your place of worship continuously? She said: Yes. He then said: Since leaving you I have said three times four phrases which, if weighed against all that you have said (during this period), would prove to be heavier: "Glory be to Allah, and I begin with praise of Him to the number of His creatures, in accordance w…Narrated Abdullah Ibn Abbas: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) went out from Juwayriyyah (wife of the Prophet). Earlier her name was Barrah, and he changed it. When he went out she was in her place of worship, and when he returned she was in her place of worship. He asked: Have you been in your place of worship continuously? She said: Yes. He then said: Since leaving you I have said three times four phrases which, if weighed against all that you have said (during this period), would prove to be heavier: "Glory be to Allah, and I begin with praise of Him to the number of His creatures, in accordance with His good pleasure, to the weight of His throne and to the ink (extent) of His words."
How the Prophet ص modelled 2 behaviours here
Open Communication
“He then said: Since leaving you I have said three times four phrases which, if weighed against all that you have said (during this period), would prove to be heavier”
Communicates openly and honestly with his wife — sharing his own feelings and needs and inviting hers, resolving things by talking.
This hadith also models: Attentive Presence
Attentive Presence
“He asked: Have you been in your place of worship continuously?”
Gives his wife focused attention and genuine curiosity about her thoughts, feelings and inner world; listens and is fully present rather than distracted.
This hadith also models: Open Communication