Sahih Muslim - Book 52, Hadith 64
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A'isha the wife of Allah's Apostle (ﷺ), reported that one day Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) came out of her (apartment) during the night and she felt jealous. Then he came and he saw me (in what agitated state of mind) I was. He said: A'isha, what has happened to you? Do you feel jealous? Thereupon she said: How can it be (that a woman like me) should not feel jealous in regard to a husband like you. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: It was your devil who had come to you, and she said: Allah's Messenger, is there along with me a devil? He said: Yes. I said: Is a devil attached to everyone? He said…A'isha the wife of Allah's Apostle (ﷺ), reported that one day Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) came out of her (apartment) during the night and she felt jealous. Then he came and he saw me (in what agitated state of mind) I was. He said: A'isha, what has happened to you? Do you feel jealous? Thereupon she said: How can it be (that a woman like me) should not feel jealous in regard to a husband like you. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: It was your devil who had come to you, and she said: Allah's Messenger, is there along with me a devil? He said: Yes. I said: Is a devil attached to everyone? He said: Yes. I (Aisha) again said: Allah's Messenger, is it with you also? He said: Yes, but my Lord has helped me against him and as such I am absolutely safe from his mischief.
How the Prophet ص modelled 3 behaviours here
Gentleness & Kind Speech
“He said: A'isha, what has happened to you?”
Is gentle and soft toward his wife in word and deed; speaks kindly and never with harshness, insult, or contempt.
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This hadith also models: Emotional Steadiness Attentive Presence
Emotional Steadiness
“Then he came and he saw me (in what agitated state of mind) I was. He said: A'isha, what has happened to you?”
Stays calm, composed and non-reactive when his wife is upset, angry or withdrawn; does not retaliate, get defensive, or escalate in the moment.
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This hadith also models: Gentleness & Kind Speech Attentive Presence
Attentive Presence
“He said: A'isha, what has happened to you?”
Gives his wife focused attention and genuine curiosity about her thoughts, feelings and inner world; listens and is fully present rather than distracted.
This hadith also models: Gentleness & Kind Speech Emotional Steadiness