Honoring & Consulting

Honors and respects his wife as a dignified partner; values, seeks and acts on her opinion and counsel.

Modern relationship guidance
Express how attractive she is and how much you want her.
Let her know that you are thinking about her throughout the day.
Send romantic messages to brighten her day and melt her heart.
Express a willingness to improve by asking if what you are doing is working for her and how you can do better.
Never ignore the feedback your wife provides regarding her pleasure.
Start by exploring and touching various parts of her entire body.
Pay close attention to her responses during sex to understand what she likes and avoid making mistakes.
Try dressing up in a costume if she enjoys role-playing.
Seek regular feedback from your wife to understand her specific preferences.
Ask questions beforehand to learn what works for your wife specifically.
Recognize that every woman has unique physical needs and preferences.
Avoid making assumptions about a woman's needs based on generalizations; treat her as an individual.
Prophetic example
Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 4, Hadith 64

“he asked his wives to permit him to be nursed (treated) in my house.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 46, Hadith 29

“I am telling you something, but you need not hurry to give the reply till you can consult your parents.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 57, Hadith 8

“he asked the permission of his wives that he should be treated in my house”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 57, Hadith 22

“The Prophet (ﷺ) came to our house when we had gone to our beds.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 63, Hadith 43

“he would say, "Khadija was such-and-such, and from her I had children."”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 64, Hadith 253

“he made a place for her behind him and made her observe the veil.”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 64, Hadith 463

“he requested his wives to permit him to be (treated) nursed in my house”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 65, Hadith 311

“Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) used to take the permission of that wife with whom he was supposed to stay overnight if he wanted to go to one other than her”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 65, Hadith 475

“came upon Khadija (his wife) and said, 'Cover me!'”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 76, Hadith 31

“he asked the permission of all his wives to allow him to be treated In my house”

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Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 96, Hadith 97

“When `Aisha was told of the slander, she said, 'O Allah's Apostle! Will you allow me to go to my parents' home?' He allowed her”

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Sahih Muslim - Book 17, Hadith 55

“So if you desire I can spend a week with you, and if you like I may spend three (nights).”

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Sahih Muslim - Book 18, Hadith 30

“I am going to mention to you a matter which you should not (decide) in haste until you have consulted your parents.”

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Sahih Muslim - Book 39, Hadith 34

“Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) stood up in order to bid her good-bye.”

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Jami` at-Tirmidhi - Book 47, Hadith 256

“He said: 'O 'Aishah! I am going to mention something to you, but you should not hasten (to reply) until you have consulted your parents.'”

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Jami` at-Tirmidhi - Book 49, Hadith 271

“He said: "You are upon good."”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 26, Hadith 71

“Seek the permission of women with regard to marriage.”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 26, Hadith 74

“he left the matter up to her”

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Sunan an-Nasa'i - Book 27, Hadith 52

“O 'Aishah, I am going to say something to you and you do not have to rush (to make a decision) until you consult your parents.”

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Sunan Ibn Majah - Book 33, Hadith 83

“You are Umm Abdullah”

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