Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 65, Hadith 307
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Narrated `Aisha: (the wife of the Prophet) Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) came to me when Allah ordered him to give option to his wives. So Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) started with me, saying, "I am going to mention to you something but you should not hasten (to give your reply) unless you consult your parents.' He knew that my parents would not order me to leave him. Then he said, "Allah says:-- "O Prophet! Say to your wives..." (33.28-29) On that I said to him, "Then why should I consult my parents? Verily, I seek Allah, His Apostle and the Home of the Hereafter."
How the Prophet ص modelled 2 behaviours here
Gentleness & Kind Speech
“I am going to mention to you something but you should not hasten (to give your reply) unless you consult your parents.”
Is gentle and soft toward his wife in word and deed; speaks kindly and never with harshness, insult, or contempt.
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This hadith also models: Principled Leadership
Principled Leadership
“Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) came to me when Allah ordered him to give option to his wives.”
Leads the marriage from inner conviction and self-mastery rather than insecurity or ego; sets a steady, positive tone for the home.
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This hadith also models: Gentleness & Kind Speech