Sahih al-Bukhari - Book 77, Hadith 104
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Narrated Um Salama: that once the Prophet (ﷺ) was in her house, and an effeminate man was there too. The effeminate man said to `Abdullah, (Um Salama's brother) "0 `Abdullah! If Ta'if should be conquered tomorrow, I recommend you the daughter of Ghailan, for she is so fat that she has four curves in the front (of her belly) and eight at the back." So the Prophet (ﷺ) said (to his wives) "These effeminate (men) should not enter upon you (your houses).
How the Prophet ص modelled 2 behaviours here
Principled Leadership
“These effeminate (men) should not enter upon you (your houses).”
Leads the marriage from inner conviction and self-mastery rather than insecurity or ego; sets a steady, positive tone for the home.
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This hadith also models: Protective Care
Protective Care
“These effeminate (men) should not enter upon you (your houses).”
Protects his wife's safety, dignity and wellbeing, and stands up for her.
This hadith also models: Principled Leadership