Sunan Ibn Majah - Book 33, Hadith 83
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It was narrated from Aisha that she said to the Prophet(ﷺ): "All of your wives have a Kunyah except me." He said: "You are Umm Abdullah".
How the Prophet ص modelled 3 behaviours here
Gentleness & Kind Speech
“You are Umm Abdullah”
Is gentle and soft toward his wife in word and deed; speaks kindly and never with harshness, insult, or contempt.
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This hadith also models: Honoring & Consulting Attentive Presence
Honoring & Consulting
“You are Umm Abdullah”
Honors and respects his wife as a dignified partner; values, seeks and acts on her opinion and counsel.
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This hadith also models: Gentleness & Kind Speech Attentive Presence
Attentive Presence
“You are Umm Abdullah”
Gives his wife focused attention and genuine curiosity about her thoughts, feelings and inner world; listens and is fully present rather than distracted.
This hadith also models: Gentleness & Kind Speech Honoring & Consulting