Jami` at-Tirmidhi - Book 15, Hadith 39
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Anas narrated: "One of the wives of the Prophet (ﷺ) gave the Prophet (ﷺ) some food in a bowl. Then 'Aishah broke the bowl with her hand, and discarded what was in it. So the Prophet (ﷺ) said: "Food for food and vessel for vessel."
How the Prophet ص modelled 3 behaviours here
Emotional Steadiness
“So the Prophet (ﷺ) said: "Food for food and vessel for vessel."”
Stays calm, composed and non-reactive when his wife is upset, angry or withdrawn; does not retaliate, get defensive, or escalate in the moment.
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This hadith also models: Patience & Forbearance Mercy & Forgiveness
Patience & Forbearance
“So the Prophet (ﷺ) said: "Food for food and vessel for vessel."”
Bears his wife's faults, mistakes and difficult moments with patience over time; is slow to anger and endures hardship in the marriage gracefully.
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This hadith also models: Emotional Steadiness Mercy & Forgiveness
Mercy & Forgiveness
“So the Prophet (ﷺ) said: "Food for food and vessel for vessel."”
Overlooks his wife's faults and pardons her; does not hold grudges, shame, or punish her for mistakes.
This hadith also models: Emotional Steadiness Patience & Forbearance