How the Prophet ص modelled 7 behaviours here
“'Your mother got jealous; eat.'”
Is gentle and soft toward his wife in word and deed; speaks kindly and never with harshness, insult, or contempt.
“She struck the hand of the Prophet and the bowl fell and broke. The Prophet picked up the two pieces and put them together”
Stays calm, composed and non-reactive when his wife is upset, angry or withdrawn; does not retaliate, get defensive, or escalate in the moment.
“She struck the hand of the Prophet and the bowl fell and broke. The Prophet picked up the two pieces and put them together”
Bears his wife's faults, mistakes and difficult moments with patience over time; is slow to anger and endures hardship in the marriage gracefully.
“The Prophet picked up the two pieces and put them together”
Overlooks his wife's faults and pardons her; does not hold grudges, shame, or punish her for mistakes.
“She struck the hand of the Prophet and the bowl fell and broke. The Prophet picked up the two pieces and put them together”
Leads the marriage from inner conviction and self-mastery rather than insecurity or ego; sets a steady, positive tone for the home.
“He waited until she brought the wooden bowl that was in her house, then he gave the sound bowl to the messenger and left the broken bowl in the house of the one who had broken it.”
Treats his wife (and co-wives) justly and equitably; honors her rights and gives her what is due without wronging her.
“The Prophet picked up the two pieces and put them together, then he started to gather up the food”
Helps with the work of the home and serves his family; does not consider domestic help beneath him.